Showing posts with label Creativity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Creativity. Show all posts

Monday, May 19, 2008

New Thinking About Retirement

I’m a looking to the future kind of gal. As if I don’t have enough to worry about in the present, I like to worry about the future too.

So, I do wonder what retirement is going to look like for us Boomers. I mean, our options, and frankly, our expectations are so much different than our parents that there is no telling how many different ways this will look. There are lots of us without kids, lots of singles, most of us with families scattered all over everywhere, many of us doing phased or ‘not at all’ retirement, and most of us feel strongly we ain’t goin’ to no nursin’ home, at least as many of them exist today. For those of us with no kids and single, we wonder about practical things like who will be checking in on us to make sure we haven’t fallen and can’t get up.

Throw in the mix that if the statistics are to be believed, it seems as though many of us are expecting a champagne retirement on a beer budget. Social security benefits account for 90% of income for 4 out of 10 single retirees, and 2 of 10 married couples. Women’s incomes lag significantly behind men’s too, so we may be more likely to find ourselves in a low retirement income situation. Hmmph.

So what do you suppose all that adds up to?

Scott Burns is a popular personal finance columnist who just wrote an interesting column that may be one answer to this dilemma: economies of shared living. Or, in the vernacular, shacking up with other folks to stretch your dollars.

He says our expectations of a house of our own, our own bedroom, our own car, our own phone/TV/computer, etc. makes living quite expensive. Gulp, what’s he going to say next? Yep, you guessed it.

Just sharing shelter costs with 3 other people dramatically increases your available income. If you think about sharing a car and other major expenses, you’ve begun stretching a meager income significantly.

This may not be for everyone, but I think it is very worth considering not only from the financial aspect, but the social aspects as well. And, I think it goes beyond just retirement thinking and has applications to pursuing a passion, or reinventing your life.

I am currently experimenting with the house sharing thing. Last year, I wanted a big change so I rented out my house and moved in with a relative stranger. It has worked out so much better than I could have hoped. Did I give up some privacy? Yes. Are there perks? YES! Not the least of which is the money I’m saving in living expenses that has allowed me to undertake my midlife women project, WomenBloom, which I LOVE! It has not only stretched my dollars, but it has opened my life up to new friends, new ideas and a richer life.

I mean, I’ve learned how to roast a chicken, compost, raise tomatoes, and make killer soups. My housemate is very wise about money so I’ve learned lots there. And, it’s not a bad place to hang out as you can see from the photos.

Is that worth giving up a little privacy? OH YEA!

Point is, I’m very curious about the different ways, now and 20 years from now, I can make my life as interesting as possible, as cheaply as possible. I think that is going to require some creative thinking outside the box about what we think we need. And perhaps letting go of old thinking about what is necessary for living an interesting, satisfying life.

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

A Year Of Creativity...Digging Deep Into Your Creative Spirit


This is a lovely, lovely little book. I was in one of my favorite stores in Taos NM, Common Threads. You have never seen a more delicious collection of world textiles. The variety of colors and textures is a visual and tactile feast of velvets, silks, tribal, hemp, cotton, you name it. And the buttons, oh my word, the BUTTONS...oops, I digress...

Anyway, the owner of the shop was talking to another customer about this book. So many women in mid-life have expressed to me their need to be more creative at this time of their life. And so, ever alert to items I think a mid-life lady would enjoy, I asked to see the book. Oh the darling thing! Its beautiful illustrations with old Oriental fabrics and images makes it almost as much of a visual feast as the store.

Brenda Mallon, a psychotherapist and author, has provided a whole year of exercises aimed at deepening your understanding of yourself and your creative nature. An example: consider creating a collage of images and objects that speak meaningfully to you about the life you'd like to create. There are many many more to spark your imagination.

That isn't even to mention the probing questions at every turn.

Consider:

What are the high points of your life at present? Low points?
Are there any parts of your life that feel stagnant, like a swamp?
What parts of your life run smoothly, like a sparkling river?
What parts of your life do you keep hidden from friends or family?
What words would you use to describe your emotional landscape, for example, rocky, barren, lush, rich, overgrown, etc?

Good stuff. To engage questions like those can't help but result in keen insights into one's creative spirit.

At the end of each month's exercises, she has a list of feedback questions to help you internalize what you've learned. Well done.

The downside is that I believe the book may be out of print. However, when I got on Amazon, there were a number of booksellers offering it and I got a like new copy.